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Feb212017

How to Revive a "Dead" Church

[February 21, 2017]

Here’s something I hear from time to time: “I’d like to join the Orthodox Church, but I visited a local church and it just felt dead.”

When I hear this it’s about Orthodox churches, but that needn’t be the case. It could be any church or denomination; it might sound good on paper, but the local church on Sunday morning feels empty and drained.

It’s tempting to say, “That shouldn’t make any difference. Focus on your own prayer life.” But, actually, I know what these people mean. Sometimes, when you visit a church, something just feels “off.” It makes you really eager to get out of there.

I’ve puzzled over what this is, exactly. It seems like, anywhere the same people gather regularly—a school, an office, a church—a hard-to-define quality develops, an atmosphere or a mood. Even though I know that quality or mood shouldn’t affect me, it does. I can’t just ignore it.

The first impulse, when that happens, is to get out of there, and look for a church that feels more alive. But there’s another possibility: a “dead” church can be revived. There are things you can do to bring a church, of whatever denomination, to life.

Go back to that moment when you were looking around the congregation and feeling dismayed. It’s been said that 20 per cent of the people in a church do 80 per cent of the work. When you first visit a church, most of what you see will naturally be that 80 per cent. It seems like they aren’t really engaged with worship; maybe, you think, they’re there for social reasons, or just out of habit.

But the 20 per cent whose faith is strong, the ones who pray and read the bible, who sincerely seek the Lord—they’re there too; they’re just not as visible. In every congregation, there is a hidden “starter set” of committed people.  Your task is to find them, band together with them, and begin to fan the flame.

You’ll find, no doubt, that the pastor is on your side. A pastor’s life isn’t easy, and it doesn’t pay well, either. People take up the calling despite this because they sincerely want to help others deepen and strengthen their faith. If things feel “off” in church, if there’s a vacant feeling, a rattling-around chill, it not because that’s how the pastor likes it. So, if you want to understand this church, listen to him. He knows the people in the congregation better than anyone else does, and he knows what prayer groups or book studies have been effective in the past.

Now, where are you going to find these more-committed people? One place is mid-week services. People who take the trouble to go to church when it isn’t Sunday morning probably have a motivation similar to yours.

Say you notice somebody who comes regularly to mid-week services, or arrives early on Sundays and stays late, or carries a well-worn bible (or prayer rope, in an Orthodox church)—any kind of tip-off. Take the initiative and make contact. On Sunday, look around for them during coffee hour, and go over and start a conversation. Find out if you are reading the same books, or mention something in worship that you found meaningful. Build bridges.

This next part might be shocking, so brace yourself: these people might not be the same age you are. They might not dress in ways you find attractive. They might not read as much as you do, or not read the same things. If you walk with them to their car, you might see a bumper-sticker you don’t like.

Don’t let these things throw you off. As you become fond of someone, the very things that were initially off-putting can transform and become endearing.

It’s likely that some of these people will literally be little old ladies. That’s OK. Someone who’s had decades of experience with prayer might be just what you need in your life right now. Also, sometimes old ladies turn out to be interesting. I know because I am one.

If you attend a liturgical church, you can also remind yourself that, even if the church’s atmosphere dismays you, you are still receiving communion. The Prophet Elijah, alone in the wilderness, was sustained by ravens who brought him bread. In the Divine Liturgy, the Holy Spirit gives you the Bread of Life; ultimately, that’s all you need.

Remember also that bitter, discouraged Elijah was less alone than he thought he was. He complained that he was the only faithful person remaining in the land, and the Lord revealed that there were another 7000 who had never abandoned the faith.

Here’s another practical suggestion: Pray through the church directory, a page or two every day. When you get to the end, start over. Invite your church-friends to do the same, praying for each person by name. Don’t pray for God to change them; just call them to mind, remembering them, as St. Paul did (“I remember you constantly in my prayers,” 2 Timothy 1:3; “I remember you in my prayers,” Philemon 1:4). Just lift them up before the Lord; The Lord knows better than you do what they need.

If you know of specific needs, for healing perhaps, of course you can include those requests. Let the pastor know that you and your friends are glad to pray for any needs he thinks it right to share.

This habit of praying through the directory has the practical benefit of teaching you the names of everyone in the church. It will help you remember who’s married to whom, which kids go with which families, and so on.

In time, this habit of praying for all the congregation by name will change something inside of you. The worshippers will stop seeming like a mass of indistinguishable faces. They will be revealed instead as what they always were: unique individuals, each of whom is thoroughly known and loved by Christ. The congregation is not a block of stone but a mosaic, composed of countless faces.

That’s so often the way with spiritual growth: you realize something was true all the time. Christ was already present, already working in these lives, long before you walked in the door. He was already loving them and calling them into a closer relationship with himself. And, fortunately, they’re people who are already in the habit of coming to church. A line in a hymn, a scripture reading, a sermon illustration, may be just the spark they need. Your role is to pray.

There probably are more prayerful and faithful people in the congregation than you’ve been able to see. Superficial factors, like clothing and age, may be rendering them invisible to you. In C. S. Lewis’s The Screwtape Letters, a senior devil teaches a young devil how to corrupt his “patient.” Although the young man in question has started going to church, it’s not necessarily a lost cause, because of his preconceptions about what the Church should look like.

 

When he gets to his pew and looks round him, he sees just that selection of his neighbors whom he has hitherto avoided. You want to lean pretty heavily on those neighbors. Make his mind flit to and fro between an expression like “the body of Christ” and the actual faces in the next pew.

 

It matters very little, of course, what kind of people that next pew really contains. You may know one of them to be a great warrior on [God the Father’s] side. No matter. Your patient, thanks to [the Devil], is a fool. Provided that any of those neighbors sing out of tune, or have boots that squeak, or double chins, or odd clothes, the patient will quite easily believe that their religion must therefore be somehow ridiculous.

 

As time passes, and church members who are prayerful and intentional find each other, a kind of chemical change takes place. They find that they constitute a living community within the congregation. They sense that they are upheld by each other’s prayers. When they come to worship, the do so prepared to love and serve God.

A quality of warmth and illumination accompanies them, and it begins to pervade worship. This is something others can sense—even those people you’d written off. Christ is Life, and everyone seeks life. The warmth of faith is attractive in the sense that a magnet is attractive, and it draws people forward. You are moving toward a tipping point, in which the Light of Christ becomes so perceptible that the feeling of worship on Sunday morning is transformed.

If you think a congregation is “dead,” your only option is not to go somewhere else. Where Christ is, there is resurrection. By finding and befriending other church members who are spiritually strong, by following the pastor’s vision, and by giving prayer support to the work God is already doing in worshippers’ lives, you can help bring a congregation to life.

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Reader Comments (7)

Oh, my, Frederica! This is so amazing! During the two 40 day fasts, I organize a prayer group to pray through the Psalter twice, a kathesima each day. We also pray for each of the others in our group. Just this Sunday, Last Judgement, as I was standing there during the DL, I looked around at all the new faces and thought of those who have moved away or died. I wondered if in addition to tjose in my group, I could somehow work out a way to pray for everyone in our parish. And you've given the answer! Since we just got updated directories at the end of January, I have all the names readily available to me.

This post is confirmation to me that what I was thinking was from the Lord!

FMG: So great! and I'll tell you what we do at Holy Cross. It's not a big church, a little over 120 people. Twice a year I divide up the names of all the parishioners into 6 groups, one per day, Monday - Saturday. We pray for 10-12 families per day. I send the list to everyone in the church, and people participate if they want to. I think the prayers have done us a lot of good, and it has certainly helped us to remember each other's names. God bless you this Lent, and you follow the course he inspired you to take!
February 21, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterPhotini
I've been waiting for an Orthodox person to read this book (hint hint): Transforming Fellowship by Chris Coursey...don't be put off by the Protestantism (the intended audience) or the brain science - these 19 relational skills are indispensable for the health of any living, functional, loving Christian community.

FMG: Thanks! It sounds good.
February 21, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterSharon MacKinnon
I really enjoyed your article. Sometimes we over winter in a southern clime where our Orthodox mission meets every other Saturday. I am very pleased to attend my childhood Sunday School, which is in an old country schoolhouse where a small group of mostly relatives have met together for over a hundred years to worship God in an undenominational way. They have occasional visits from pastors who love and know about them and are compensated by gas money and a pot luck. I wish other members of our mission who live around there could spend some time with this small group of committed, though very unstructured and informal Christians, for everyone's mutual benefit. To be comfortable within the inherent differences would take many of the exercises you describe in this article, but would bring much joy to both sides, I strongly believe. Thank you for your perspective and practical exercises in bridging difference in celebration of worship of our same God.
February 21, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMaryAnn Northey
I really like your suggestion to pray for members using the church directory. We have a retired pastor who saves all the Christmas cards he receives, and every week he and his wife pull one out of the stack and pray for that family.
February 24, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterThaddeus Wert
Thank you, Frederica, for this wonderful piece! My husband is a second-year seminarian at St. Vlad's (we are friends with some of your former parishioners! :), and I find your piece so very poignant!! Coming from the West Coast, we've found that our experiences in the vast majority of churches we have visited here on the East Coast are quite different from our church interactions and experiences "back home." I would not say we have been in "dead," churches, but we have been in churches that could surely use a revival! Our generation is almost entirely absent from the parishes we have been in on the East Coast. But we have found that little old lady in each of our parishes, of course from day 1, because she's always at matins! She has always offered to help me with the children, to stop at coffee hour and see how we are doing, to offer prayers, to ask my husband about his studies, to fold the bulletins and clean the kitchen when no one is looking, to hug and dote on every baby and child she sees, to faithfully visit the tithing box, to exhibit true love, concern, and care for the priest, to be the first to offer a helping hand to anyone in need, and to joyfully give us the occasional $10 bill with lovingly strict instructions to "buy ice cream for the kids on the way home!" The first church lady we met was named Mary, and she invited us to her 90th birthday party (which was held at the church, of course!) At our parish assignment this year, her name is Renee. (And we still stay in touch with Mary, and try to go see her for a visit every month or two!) At our home parish in California, his name was Ray, and he just passed away earlier this month. Memory Eternal! These amazing people have given me hope, faith, love, and humility, and have taught me by their examples, patience, and love in ways they'll never even know! Even so, there can be some real issues we face in a parish. My husband and I have many talks about what we see and experience in the parish, how we can be a part of it all, what could be done to help all of us out of our comfort zones a bit. I feel happily surprised by the simplicity and practicality of your suggestion to pray through the directory! Wow! Thank you again!!
February 24, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMary
Thank you, Frederica! I'm a Mennonite pastor in a small rural congregation. Its not at all dead, but some mornings or lonely mid-week services... I wonder.

You say so clearly and fully what I wish people in the pews and especially those "shopping around" would recognize. We all have a stake in the spiritual life of the church. God is already here/there working in the strangest, most unlikely people. (I had one in my office this morning.) And God's quite pleased to give us life and put us in places where we can be witnesses to this life.

I don't know how I found you, but you have been a blessing to me. I'm not sure what Mennonites and Orthodox have to do with one another, but the Orthodox people and faith tradition has really challenged and encouraged me in Christ. One day, I pray our schismatic ways are healed, and we can come back together... mostly us doing the coming.

FMG: thank you, Wes! I have known other Mennonites on the way, and I think what we have in common is an appreciation of sanctification / holiness, that that is what the Lord intends for all of us rather than a handful of professional saints. May God continue to bless you ministry, and give you, at least occasionally, a glimpse of how much you contribute to his Kingdom.
March 23, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterwes
Full of gracious and delightful possibilities. Thank you so much.
May 17, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAnna

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